December, 2007

My blog, stephanieknows.wordpress.com, is my forum for my ideas, thoughts and opinions.  They are solely my ideas, thoughts and opinion.  This blog is created for my opinion only.  Please do not think I have laid my whole life bare for you to disseminate.  There are situations, people and places that have been changed, embellished, added or deleted for entertainment purposes.

My blog is not intended to malign any racial, religious, ethnic, club, group or organization.  I am not affiliated with any company, club or organization.  I am not here to slander or create drama.  It’s just me, expressing my overblown opinion. 

This blog is not meant to provide advice, again, simply entertainment.  There is nothing to tell you how to live your life here.  Just points to ponder.

There will be a few adult words thrown around from time to time.  If you don’t like them, you can always find another website. 

I welcome all comments and compliments.  Be warned, I may welcome them, but if necessary, I will mock them, delete them or block them.

Folks, I only know what I feel.

As for etiquette…I found this on Queenie’s Place and decided that I agree with the Rules of Engagement…read it, live it, respect it.

 (taken from the following link: www.namaii.com/readme/)

If you have a real life relationship with the writer, remember that communication is very important. View weblogs as online journals, no less sacred than a diary hidden between the mattresses. First of all let them know that you read their site, especially if they did not tell you personally.

If they do not want you reading it, or suddenly stop posting entries, ask them why and if necessary, stop going to the site. It is important that as a friend, relative, co-worker or whatever you may be to the writer, that your presence at their weblog not impede their ability to express themselves. Remember this is their outlet. They may not want you to read certain things they might write about you or others you care about, in order to spare your feelings, avoid drama or maintain their privacy. You should respect this and immediately stop going to the site, and never relay any information you gather at their site to others who might use it against them.

If someone writes about you and you don’t appreciate it, approach them about it. Try to remain calm and polite. Explain that you are entitled to your privacy as well. There are many compromises that can be reached from using vague nicknames to protect your anonymity, or not mentioning you at all. If you are upset because they are writing negative things about you, be reasonable, try to see if there is a way to resolve the issues and mend your relationship with the writer. If that doesn’t seem to be possible, stop going to the website. They will eventually get bored and move on.

Ex-friends, lovers and estranged family members who have been cut out of the writer’s life should refrain from reading their journal. If the relationship has ended, there is no reason you should get daily updates on the person’s life. If you simply can’t help yourself, do it quietly, and never repeat what you read or use it to hurt the writer.

 

 

Never assume a writer owes you any response. They may receive from a few to hundreds of messages per day. Some will gladly write back immediately, others will never reply. Try not to take it personally, because chances are it has more to do with their schedule than anything else. If you get upset and nasty about feeling rejected, you will probably ruin any chances you had of befriending the person.

Don’t delude yourself into thinking that you will be as important to the writer as he/she is to you. Remember, you are peering in on their life, sharing their thoughts, and though they may become quite special to you, you remain a mystery to them. If they are cold or unreceptive to your advances, keep in mind that you are a stranger to them at this point, and they may or may not want to keep it that way. It’s entirely their choice.

Don’t be a psycho stalker.

You shouldn’t contact people with messenger services unless they list their handles on their website. If you got it from someone else, forget you ever had it, they probably meant to keep it somewhat private.

A writer has the right to stop writing at any time for any reason they see fit, and at no point must they justify or explain these reasons to you or any of their readers. It’s their weblog, they can do with it as they please.

 

 

 

Under no circumstances should you ever direct link anything, this includes link buttons and any other graphics the writer may offer. Direct linking is when you type something like <img src=”http://www.yahoo.com/linkbutton.gif”> to display the yahoo link button, instead of actually saving it and uploading it on to your server. It is essentially bandwidth theft, because it uses data transfer, and the owner of the server has to pay for it. Always save the image and upload it to your own server unless the author specifically states you can do otherwise.